Last Sunday a friend dropped by with an apple pie. She has been a great friend for decades and a great chef in her own right but I digress.
I recall a conversation with a friend who wanted to leave his wife. His reason to me was, she does not want to climb mountains with me.....
I felt his logic was a bit shallow when this statement was made to me over a decade ago.
He did not see how much she cared for him and how she altered much of her own life to support him in his quest to build a business (he was already gainfully employed as a side note). She supported his hobbies and interests. She helped him accomplish his dreams in his own life. She was there to catch him when he would fall.
He was not able to see what she had done for him as they built a life and raised a daughter. The importance of her past work, love and effort were overshadowed by his own desires to climb a mountain.
In the end, her intentions and real actions carried little weight. The lack of climbing mountains was the logic he used to end the relationship.
So often in the end one person just turns their back on the other and walks away. Marriage? Vows? Promises? Government? The economy? There are a lot of folks out there that just quit, lie or just give up.
There is a story on marrige in the Huffington Post that talks about marriage: